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The Invisible Woman

So you all know I don't paint a perfect picture of "the life of Michelle"......I let you all in on the good, the bad and the ugly. Because you know, I am who I am....keeping it real is what I am all about, as I have mentioned before about how I can't stand phonyness. (completely sure that is NOT a word)

I am going through a rough patch with my kids.....nothing major or specific, but I am just in a place where I don't think they appreciate and respect me lately. I am sure hormones raging has a little something to do with my feelings and defensiveness......but I do have some valid issues that definitely need to be addressed. I know these are normal teenage actions and thinking back to how *I* was and acted at their age, I might want to call them Wally and Beaver Cleaver. But that isn't the point, I am gonna use the "Do as I say, not as I do (did)" card. Right here, right now......I tend to be the brunt of their mood swings, their snappy know-it-all answers and their expectations of being their maid, chauffeur and personal chef.

Now don't get me wrong......I love being a mom and I know that title comes with all those job requirements......I just want a little respect and appreciation. Is that too much to ask?

I think we all get to the point where we feel we are giving so much and getting nothing in return. This does not only apply to motherhood..... it can be a work atmosphere, a ministry position in church or even in your own personal endeavor.

I know the line that has been spoken to me over and over "you do not give to receive".....but I want to lay it all out, stomp my feet and just ask for a simple "thank you" with possibly a "hey, I am sorry, Mom, that I have been a typical, selfish, self-centered, and it's-all-about-me product of "Generation Entitlement", lately." (don't worry, I am not holding my breath on that one)

........and right before I decide to go into meltdown hissy fit mode over it all, I remember this incredible video that my mother-in-law sent me a while back. And if you have or are feeling the slightest bit unappreciated in any area of your life.....I cannot encourage you enough to take the 5 minutes and 47 seconds of your life to watch this clip. It is Nicole Johnson from Freshed Brewed Life and I promise you be inspired and uplifted.

Be blessed~


23 comments:

katdish said...

Oh, man...

Did I need that today! Thank you. She's right - God sees and knows what we do, and even though I would like to say that's enough for me I'm not there yet. But some days it just has to be enough.

christy rose said...

Wow! you are in my world for sure! Thanks for posting this Michelle. It ministered to me in a huge way!

amanda said...

total encouragement. i shared it on my facebook wall!! thanks for sharing my fellow 'cathedral building' mom. :0)

Beth.. One Blessed Nana said...

Anyone with children has felt just that way my friend.

Great post!

Julie said...

I really love her, she is a wonderful speaker with an amazing way to bring the point home!

I can so relate to what you are going through. My kids are stretching me very thin.

I need to look at this job of mothering like building the cathedrals.

And what a neat story about the carved bird.

Thanks Michelle. I needed this.

And right now I say a special prayer for you.

~Julie (wifemomnurse)

Shark Bait said...

"We don't work for them. We work for HIM."

Powerful stuff.

RCUBEs said...

What an encouragement this post was! We might not be appreciated but I know that there is always a perfect time in His timetable where we always are! Blessings to you sister.

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

Great, you are always on the head and do such an amazing thing through this blog.

Kristina P. said...

Hang in there! You clearly have a positive attitude.

Bridget Chumbley said...

I was reading your post and could relate on ALL levels...

This was exactly what I needed this morning. Thank you for sharing it with me when I needed it most, Michelle.

Mich said...

You have ceratinly been drinking my kool aid today. thanks. I needed these words of encouragement and the reminder of who I really am serving from day to day.

Julia said...

WOW! Love it. Thanks for sharing.

Michelle said...

I need that daily as a new mom. I find myself not looking for my children to see me but for acceptance by those on the outside. I'm a little different the most young mothers today and even the generation before. I seek something different and others don't see it. I don't change because I don't have approval...but my nature still wants that approval and acknowledgment. Great video that fit my own situation. It's for Him and it doesn't matter who else or if anyone else ever sees the outcome.

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

Shirley has become an invaluable source of wisdom and kinship to me over the past year. Thank you for sharing her story here. I know you adore her as I do.

Nice to "meet" you.

peace~elaine

Corinne said...

Oh my goodness I can so relate!
Thank you for putting this out there today.

Denise said...

Wonderful post.

Shirl said...

I know it's no consolation to you now, but they do grow up, learn to respect you, and become your best friend!

And there's always that moment when you step back, watch your adult child going through the same thing with their children. You and your spouse look at one another and say...'you live long enough...' to which your adult child glares at you! LOL!!! It's a joke we've had with our girls since they had children of their own.

Tracy said...

I TOTALLY related to your feelings with your kids. I, too, adore being a mom and appreciate what wonderful sons I have...but sometimes my 17yr old son seems to think I only exist, my only function in life, is to make his world better. The video clip is indeed worth watching and helps me keep my focus right where it belongs.

Alicia said...

Oh my gosh...I totally needed to hear that!!! That is so true..everything she said!!

I'm going to share this on my Facebook!! Thank you so much!

Daveda said...

I think all of us moms have felt "invisible" at one time or another! It's always nice to be reminded that you are not alone! Thanks for posting.

Kim said...

Whew...did I need that.

Unfortunately after my meltdown this past weekend, I apparently wanted someone to see....

The reminder is a good one to keep with me.

My children are not perfect and neither am I. I need to breathe, focus on the good stuff, and realize that "no one needs to see".

Thanks!

Bina said...

I own the book that she wrote for this skit...and I have to re-read it from time to time in the moments when the "carpool/laundry/butter woman" can't stand invisibility anymore.

Thanks for this reminder...
My heart loves yours!

anewcreation said...

Michelle,

I cannot begin to tell you how timely this message was and how much healing I have received through that video.

Would you mind if I was to post it on my own blog?

Thank you very much for sharing it with all of us.

Hang on in there! God see it all!

 

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